Howdy everyone! My name is Kristen and these days I spend a lot of time Just Thinking!
I met my husband Bryan our freshman year at Texas A&M—true to Aggie tradition, our first kiss was at Midnight Yell and he proposed under the Century Tree. We’ll celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary this coming May 16th!
Ok, I’m done now, promise ;-).
Don’t ask “Why me?”That question is counterproductive. It doesn’t matter why something has happened, it just matters that
it has. The sooner you can accept that fact, the sooner you can start adjusting your life.
Don’t ask “What am I going to do?” or “How in the world can I ever deal with this?”.Just do it. Just deal with it. Take it one day at a time. If a whole day seems to overwhelming, take it an hour at a time. Or a minute. Or a second lol. Break your life down into whatever size chunks you need to—but you still have to deal with your changing life.
Don’t think “My life is over.”It’s true that your life will never be the same, and it’s fine to be sad about that. But as long as you are breathing, you can still have a full and happy life.
Don’t define yourself by what you can or cannot do.This was probably the hardest lesson for me to learn. Defining yourself in this manner makes your sense of self reliant on forces outside of both yourself and your control, and that’s a very dangerous thing.
Do surround yourself with loving, supportive and positive people—who won’t let you wallow in self-pity.
Do focus on the positive aspects of the change; try to ignore the negative.It’s so easy to dwell on what you’ve lost or what’s been taken from you. All that does is allow bitterness and resentment to ruin your outlook and your life. Instead focus on being thankful for all of the good things in your life—trust me, they’re there even on the worst days!
Do be flexible in your definitions.For example, I used to define being useful as adding to the monetary income of my household. Now I realize that “useful” can also encompass taking care of our home, cooking, cleaning, and all that stuff.
Do be patient with yourself.It takes time to recalibrate an entire life. It’s not going to happen in a day, a week, or even a month. Try to enjoy the journey, and when you can’t do that just hang in there while it runs its course.
After all, better out than in!
Hey guys — Arena, here! I am so thankful to Kristen for sharing her journey with us! She is an amazing person and I am so impressed with her positive attitude and ability to make the best of her situation.
Thanks so much, Kristen!
You are an inspiration to us all!