This is what I got for Mother’s Day. And it’s not even from my husband.
He did mail me flowers four days ago, though. Along with a card that said, “Happy mothers day. Love, james and Andrrw” Yeah. Spelled just like that.
But when I woke this morning with the glowing anticipation of my very first Mother’s Day, I was expecting a little more than four-day-old wilted flowers.
I didn’t necessarily need heart-shaped pancakes, jewelry or any such thing. But I did anticipate some gesture from my husband to show that he acknowledged the fact that I carried his son in my womb for seven-and-a-half months, and treasured me for it.
I mean, come on! I grew a HUMAN for Pete’s sake! I deserve something, right!?
You know that guy who dumps you right before Christmas and Valentine’s Day so he doesn’t have to buy you a present? Yeah. I married that guy.
I know I joke about being married to a nerd and all that, but sometimes, it’s just SO FRUSTRATING to be with a man who doesn’t communicate or really even listen. Who is SO SMART he has to argue about everything, even about whether or not he’s arguing with me.
So, as I was wallowing in self pity, thinking how awful it was that my husband didn’t love me enough to give me ANYTHING on the day honoring mothers, I looked down and saw the little angel in my arms.
And I had a whole new perspective.
This. This is what Mother’s Day is about. This little man who has my heart wrapped around his finger.
Him and me. Me and him. That’s all that matters.
I have this beautiful little person in my life.
And THAT, my friends, is the greatest Mother’s Day present of all.
I feel your pain! I’ve most definitely been there. I’ve always said that it would be nice if Father’s Day came first so we could show them how to do it!
It has helped to be ever-so-clear about my expectations. “I need a gift first thing in the morning so I’ll have an answer when people ask me what I got for Mother’s Day, okay?”
And about five years ago, after a successful MD (I’ve had ten so far), I said “THIS is what I want every single Mother’s Day from now on.” It’s a G.C for a pedicure. Since it’s the beginning of the summer, it’s something I can use, and now he never has to try to think of a gift for me, which is very helpful. For him and for my sanity. I do have a wonderful husband, and it wasn’t worth me spending every Mother’s Day hurt and angry with him.
Thanks, Nonie! I completely agree… I have to be very specific about what I want from him. This time, I didn’t tell him *exactly* what to get me, and that’s my fault for not being specific enough. I did tell him that he needed to get me *something* and that I was super-excited for the day.
Our marriage is still so new and with a new baby, we’re still learning a lot of things.
I do really like how you told him after a good MD that this is how you want it every year. I’ll definitely do that! 🙂
Thanks so much for your advice and comments! It’s so wonderful to know I’m not alone!! 🙂
I Love you and am sorry it was a rough day, but you are right! You are the luckiest Mom I know! Andrew is so perfect! You and I can go treat ourselves to something fun when I get there! Only 5 MORE DAYS! YAY! ( I was stuck in the car all day on my Mothers day and even drove through snow in MAY!, so I need a reward too!)
SEE YOU FRIDAY!
Thanks, Jet 🙂 Love you!
Diamonds! Girl, you gotta ask for the bling. 🙂
Yeah, husbands can be a bit clueless sometimes but just wait…James will surprise you. It might take years so don’t sweat it.
It was great to see you and the little guy. He’s an angel and you guys are truly blessed.